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Areyona Green
11/22/14
ENF3/ENG111
Being a Victim or a Creator
In life there will be a lot of things that will happen and interfere with us reaching our goals, but it’s what we choose to do to make sure it doesn't stop us from success. Some people will be a victim in a situation and some will be creators, and create ways to get out of the situation or how to make it better. Everyone has a goal the want to reach in life. When trying to reach your goal it may not be easy and it will be times we have to work harder and think of ways to make thing better. Although some situations may seem impossible to find a solution there are always ways you can create one. Negativity will never help a situation it always makes it worse. Being a victim will hold us back if we don’t push through to make sure we reach our goal.
Dr. Downing says” A victim response seeks to find blame for a negative situation. “When being a victim doesn’t help you to succeed in life it will always hold you back. A victim doesn’t look for other ways to get out of situations. They usually make the situation worse because they aren’t trying to make the situation better by creating a solution to a problem. Dr. Downing states that “a Victim response is generally unhelpful to reaching one's goal. “ When thinking negative and not trying to find a solution to a problem that can be the role of a victim. If we want our outcomes to be positive we have to think positive and take action to fixing it. Dr. Downing says A creator asks “What can I do to make this situation better?” It is always good to be a creator because it helps the situation to get better for the goal to be reached.
When I started a typing class in high school I thought that it wasn’t going to be much work and a very easy class. I started out doing all of my work and complemented them all but it took me longer than others. Once I noticed that I started to fall behind I kind of gave up, I knew that I needed to work on it more than in class but I always ended up giving up. I felt like it was pointless for me to do the work if I couldn't complete it on time like everyone else did. I never stop and realized that I was the only one holding myself back. I gave up on myself and thought I could just slide by and just pass by bare minimum because I started to get frustrated with myself all because I was behind my class mates. I never felt as if I belonged in the class and I wanted out. I ended up getting a D in the class and i thought that was good for me better than an F. I never thought that class would matter to me ever again but it did. Once I began the process of applying for college and entering my classes that class showed up and I am now retaking this class and now have better grade and I learned that can do anything I can put my mind to.
I look at my sister as a Creator. She recently graduated with her Master’s Degree this May. She was four kids and she still managed to complete all of her work. She never complained about not having enough time to complete her work sometimes she use to wake up at two in the morning to study and complete her class work while the kids were sleep. I never saw her fail a test she always passed and was very passionate about her work. It was times where the kids were sick and or things would come up but she still didn’t complain or use that as an excuse her work was always done ahead of time. To her being ahead was on time if her work was due week four she would have it done way before that week. She is always writing notes and has a calendar to remind her of things she was always organized and neat. I look up to her and I try to be like her when it comes to school just because I want to be successful just like she was when she attended school.
I watched my sister complete college and I felt I have always made excuses to why I didn't complete things and I want to reach my goal as and RN. I will continue to stay positive about completing my work and staying on schedule with my assignments. My biggest struggle is not asking for help when I need it the most. While in college I need to make sure I understand everything and use all of my resources to help me complete all of my work. My sister showed me no matter the challenges you face while in school you still can succeed and get things done no matter what. I always complain about how tired I am because I work and go to school but I can make a schedule and manage my time wisely and make sure I have time to do my school work before I do anything. I want to be the best student I can be and I know I can be great, so while in college I will stay focus and always be on top of every assignment. I have the same opportunity everyone else has when entering college and it is up to me if I complete it with my best effort or slip into the victim role and fall behind. I will always strive to be the best in order to reach my goals.
Work Cited
Mirman David ” Do you think like a Victim or a Creator?”http://youaretheprimemover.com/2012/do-you-think-like-a-victim-or-a-creator
Dr. Skip Downing's “On Course: Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life”Chapter2